I’m not old…but is it just me, or have things changed since I was a kid? Maybe nothing has changed and I am more directly effected now by certain things. Or perhaps just more aware?
Either way, the topic I would like to address today is integrity.
Here are a few definitions:
“The quality of being honest and having moral principles” – Oxford American Dictionaries
“Moral uprightness” – Oxford American Dictionaries
“The state of being whole and undivided” – Oxford American Dictionaries
“Consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations and outcomes” – Wikipedia
“A personal choice, an uncompromising and predictably consistent commitment to honor moral, ethical, spiritual and artistic values and principles” – Barbara Killinger
I am noticing a lack of integrity more and more in the population I am usually around (women, age 20-60 mostly). Folks, integrity is so much more than not lying. It is a part of who you are. Do you do things that you say you will? Do you do it when you said you would? Are you consistent in your values? Are your values reflected in your actions?
Our staff went out for dinner last week to celebrate the end of the school year. It was really nice to see how many people could come! But the only reason it worked is because it was literally planned last-minute. I’ve always thought that things that are planned in advance take priority. For instance, if I have Bible study every Monday night, I don’t plan to do anything else on Monday nights. If I told someone I could bring them to a doctor’s appointment I don’t tell friends I am free to hang out during that time.
Having said that, give yourself some freedom. If you are planning to go to a movie with a friend and suddenly your husband needs to go to the ER, then obviously that takes precedence. But, don’t leave your friend hanging. If you accidentally double-book, make the appropriate apologies and let them know you care about them and the mistake you made.
And maybe the easiest way for this to happen is to start saying “no.” You don’t need to be insanely busy. Commit to a few things and then do those things and commit to those people with everything that you have.
That’s all. 🙂 Happy Thursday!
P.S. Who really cares? Everyone. People notice and appreciate when they know you are a person of your word. It’s rare and it’s treasured, so be that person who’s different, who really loves others and who shows Christ’s love by having integrity.
P.P.S. I’m a work in progress as well.