On May 4th, four years ago, I graduated from a private Christian college in the little midwestern town of Sioux Center, IA. In the next four days I will be sharing some reflections on each year of my college experience.
I learned just as much (if not more) about life and relationships being in this environment, 16 hours away from my parents, than I did about psychology (my bachelors degree). But at times it got messy…very messy…more messy than I ever expected. 😕
If you knew me during his time, you might be able to relate. If you are currently a college freshman, you’re probably doing it a lot more gracefully than I did.
Dear Freshman Charis,
It’s okay if you don’t make all your best friends during WOW week. They won’t all get snatched up by other people! But do try, and don’t just settle.
You need sleep. Friends are fun, but sometimes sleep is better. You will learn this second semester, but your quality of life would have been so much better first semester if you decided to go to bed before 2:00 every morning.
Make more time for your roommate! She is so much cooler and godlier than you ever knew. She would have been that good influence you needed so badly. And who knows, maybe she needed you too.
Why are you dating that guy? Honestly. Are you even able to answer that question?
You can forgive toxic people in your life and then not invite them back into your life. It’s not being mean, it’s being safe. Letting them continue to live in their current lifestyle isn’t necessarily the good or nice thing to do. And you know your professors are there for you, so ask their advice, don’t just struggle through this with your peers.
Those silly things you did (and the pictures you took to prove them), might be embarrassing to look back on, but good for you for not being embarrassed! It’s fun to be a weirdo!
Finally, I think you tried your best, but sometimes you just have to learn the hard way how to do life on your own. After you’ve tripped and fallen flat on your face a few times, maybe you’ll start learning how to do it with small amounts of grace.
Your older, only-a-little-bit-wiser self